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FRAMEWORKS: 2 Sam 13: Amnon & Tamar


v.1,2 Amnon desires Tamar

v.3-5 Jonadab counsels Amnon

v.6-8 David naively consents for Tamar to go to Amnon

v.9-19 Amnon rapes & then rejects Tamar

v.20-22 Absalom cares for Tamar

v.23-29 Absalom Kills Amnon

v.30-39 Absalom flees


[Preliminary Note: What we are going to see in this and the following chapter are the circumstances that open up the way for the prophecy spoken by Nathan in 12:11,12 to be fulfilled. These are all expressions of human shortcomings but because they are not handled properly by David, they result in an even greater upheaval that is the disciplinary judgment of the Lord spoken of by Nathan. Very often the Lord's judgment simply comes by Him lifting off His hand of restraint from his people so that their natural sinful desires are allowed to backfire on them, bringing the judgment on them of the consequences [natural outworkings] of those sins. Understand that our descriptions of ‘human shortcomings' are actually sins, and we will identify these as the story progresses in this and the following chapter.]


v.1,2 Amnon desires Tamar


v.1 In the course of time, Amnon son of David fell in love with Tamar, the beautiful sister of Absalom son of David. 

v.2 Amnon became so obsessed with his sister Tamar that he made himself ill. She was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her. 


[Notes: Human Shortcoming No.1: This love of Tamar by Ammon is subsequently seen as pure lust or desire. She is in fact just his step-sister [see 3:2,3] but that doesn't diminish the desire that is there which, because he does not reject it outright, grows in him.]



v.3-5 Jonadab counsels Amnon


v.3 Now Amnon had an adviser named Jonadab son of Shimeah, David's brother. Jonadab was a very shrewd man. 

v.4 He asked Amnon, “Why do you, the king's son, look so haggard morning after morning? Won't you tell me?” Amnon said to him, “I'm in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister.” 

v.5 “Go to bed and pretend to be ill,” Jonadab said. “When your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘I would like my sister Tamar to come and give me something to eat. Let her prepare the food in my sight so I may watch her and then eat it from her hand.'” 


[Notes: Human Shortcoming No.2: Jonadab the advisor is a trouble maker who makes an improper suggestion to Amnon that involves deceiving David and inevitably is going to bring about the rape of Tamar.]



v.6-8 David naively consents for Tamar to go to Amnon


v.6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to him, “I would like my sister Tamar to come and make some special bread in my sight, so I may eat from her hand.” 

v.7 David sent word to Tamar at the palace: “Go to the house of your brother Amnon and prepare some food for him.” 

v.8 So Tamar went to the house of her brother Amnon, who was lying down. She took some dough, kneaded it, made the bread in his sight and baked it. 


[Notes: Human Shortcoming No.3: Amnon deceives his father. Human Shortcoming No.4: David fails to suspect anything wrong in this suggestion.]



v.9-19 Amnon rapes & then rejects Tamar


v.9 Then she took the pan and served him the bread, but he refused to eat. “Send everyone out of here,” Amnon said. So everyone left him. 

v.10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food here into my bedroom so I may eat from your hand.” And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom. 

v.11 But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, “Come to bed with me, my sister.” 

v.12 “No, my brother!” she said to him. “Don't force me! Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don't do this wicked thing. 

v.13 What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you.” 

v.14 But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her. 

v.15 Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!” 

v.16 “No!” she said to him. “Sending me away would be a greater wrong than what you have already done to me.” But he refused to listen to her. 

v.17 He called his personal servant and said, “Get this woman out of my sight and bolt the door after her.” 

v.18 So his servant put her out and bolted the door after her. She was wearing an ornate robe, for this was the kind of garment the virgin daughters of the king wore. 

v.19 Tamar put ashes on her head and tore the ornate robe she was wearing. She put her hands on her head and went away, weeping aloud as she went. 


[Notes: Human Shortcoming No.5: Tamar's naivety. Human Shortcoming No.6: Amon rapes her. Human Shortcoming No.7: Amnon hates her and casts her out.]



v.20-22 Absalom cares for Tamar


v.20 Her brother Absalom said to her, “Has that Amnon, your brother, been with you? Be quiet for now, my sister; he is your brother. Don't take this thing to heart.” And Tamar lived in her brother Absalom's house, a desolate woman. 

v.21 When King David heard all this, he was furious. 

v.22 And Absalom never said a word to Amnon, either good or bad; he hated Amnon because he had disgraced his sister Tamar.


[Notes: Absalom, her brother cares for her and provides for her. Human Shortcoming No.8: David does nothing about this injustice apart from getting angry. In this he opens the door for revenge to follow with further family upset and probably makes Absalom disdain him for failing to look after his daughter.]



v.23-29 Absalom Kills Amnon


v.23 Two years later, when Absalom's sheepshearers were at Baal Hazor near the border of Ephraim, he invited all the king's sons to come there. 

v.24 Absalom went to the king and said, “Your servant has had shearers come. Will the king and his attendants please join me?” 

v.25 “No, my son,” the king replied. “All of us should not go; we would only be a burden to you.” Although Absalom urged him, he still refused to go but gave him his blessing. 

v.26 Then Absalom said, “If not, please let my brother Amnon come with us.” The king asked him, “Why should he go with you?” 

v.27 But Absalom urged him, so he sent with him Amnon and the rest of the king's sons. 

v.28 Absalom ordered his men, “Listen! When Amnon is in high spirits from drinking wine and I say to you, ‘Strike Amnon down,' then kill him. Don't be afraid. Haven't I given you this order? Be strong and brave.” 

v.29 So Absalom's men did to Amnon what Absalom had ordered. Then all the king's sons got up, mounted their mules and fled. 


[Notes: Human Shortcoming No.9: Absalom plots a situation where he can kill Amnon. Human Shortcoming No.10: David fails to suspect anything after Absalom's pointed request. Human Shortcoming No.11: Absalom kills Amnon.



v.30-39 Absalom flees


v.30 While they were on their way, the report came to David: “Absalom has struck down all the king's sons; not one of them is left.” 

v.31 The king stood up, tore his clothes and lay down on the ground; and all his attendants stood by with their clothes torn. 

v.32 But Jonadab son of Shimeah, David's brother, said, “My lord should not think that they killed all the princes; only Amnon is dead. This has been Absalom's express intention ever since the day Amnon raped his sister Tamar. 

v.33 My lord the king should not be concerned about the report that all the king's sons are dead. Only Amnon is dead.” 

v.34 Meanwhile, Absalom had fled. Now the man standing watch looked up and saw many people on the road west of him, coming down the side of the hill. The watchman went and told the king, “I see men in the direction of Horonaim, on the side of the hill.” 

v.35 Jonadab said to the king, “See, the king's sons have come; it has happened just as your servant said.” 

v.36 As he finished speaking, the king's sons came in, wailing loudly. The king, too, and all his attendants wept very bitterly. 

v.37 Absalom fled and went to Talmai son of Ammihud, the king of Geshur. But King David mourned many days for his son. 

v.38 After Absalom fled and went to Geshur, he stayed there three years. 

v.39 And King David longed to go to Absalom, for he was consoled concerning Amnon's death.


[Notes: As often happens there is ‘fake news' but all the brothers have not been killed. For three years Absalom is estranged from his father.]