A.
Find Out:
1.
What did Abigail take with her? v.18
2.
What was David intending to do? v.22
3.
What was Abigail's first means of approach? v.24
4.
What did she ask? v.28a
5.
What did she declare? v.28b-30
6.
What else did she appeal against? v.28c,31
B.
Think:
1.
What was the strategy that Abigail used to stop David?
2.
How may we translate that into today's terms?
C.
Comment:
A careful consideration of Abigail's approach to David, who feels
wronged, will bear much fruit!
First she comes to him and takes the blame
for what has happened. Saying “It was my fault, I was wrong” frequently
takes the sting out of an explosive situation.
Second, she declares her intention is in line
with David's; she wants to see him blessed and triumphant over his enemies.
When offended people see that we understand and want what they want,
that again helps defuse the situation.
Third, she provides food, she provides a clear
intent of her desire to bless David. Other people need to know that
it is our desire to bless them.
Fourth, she asks his forgiveness. So far he
has simply been on the receiving end of her good wishes, but now he
is required to respond with grace. Requesting such an act of grace from
others also helps cement peace.
Finally as a seal she gently points out that
what he had intended to do by way of revenge for having being wronged,
would have had no purpose but to put him in the wrong with God. To point
out the wrong course to the other is perhaps the most difficult part.
Blessed are the peacemakers (Matthew 5:9) especially when they might
have been at least a part of the cause of upset. Being a peacemaker
is a gift the church very much needs.
D.
Application:
1.
Am I able to say “It was my fault, I was wrong, please forgive me”?
2.
Is my intention clearly for the good of the other person who I may
have
inadvertently wronged? Can I convey that
to them?